BIG VENT!!!!!

Yeah, this one is a doozy. No, it isn't hormones at all this time. It started like two weeks ago. My coleader insisted that I agreed to charge the parents another $20 fee in January which I only agreed to a POSSIBLE fee. I put it to a vote with the parents and it was voted down, paying as we go for trips. She has been a total B*TCH to me since then. I mean the whole enchilada: snipping at me, snide comments on my remarks, you name it. Tuesday was it for me. We were locked out of our building for our Tuesday meeting. The way it works is I go to the new youth center a block away and pick the keys up at 4. Our meeting is at 4:30. The keys have to be back by 8 am the next day. No biggie because I drive the kids to school then and just drop them off on my way home. (Use of the building is free too!) We the dumb *ss that used the keys the day before never brought the keys back! I am the most absentminded person you will ever meet but I make sure that those keys are there by 8 am. Last week the kids didn't even have school yet my butt was in the car driving them up in time.

Anyway, the guy doesn't get them there so I run over to the building to meet the girls there. Well, Nida shows up in one of her huffy moods so I run up and borrow the lady who runs the place's keys. I have to lock, prop the doors and bring them back. On my way back to drop them, I try and tell her I am dropping them off, don't shut the door or they will lock. She flat out ignores me! She then procedes to be a b*tch to the girls. In the end, we had two go home in tears and a mom in tears. The girls because she told them they had to eat soup even though they didn't want it at our camp out which is NOT going to happen. The mom proceded to get mad and fire back at her. The mom that was in tears wanted to go on our camp out but was told no whereas another mom got to.

Later that day, the mom that was going came to pick up some stuff for a badge she was running at camp. She told me she didn't even volonteer and wouldn't have known how to tell Nida no if she couldn't or didn't want to go. She also had noticed how mean Nida was and how her daughter sometimes dreads going to our meetings.

I wrote her this email:
On a personal note:
Is there something going on at home? I know you all went though or are still going through some financial difficulties. The reason I ask is you have been very snippy and mean with myself and the girls. C***** brought it up when she picked the stuff up and wondered what was wrong yesterday at our meeting. You didn't even respond when I let you know that we could not close the doors on my way back with the keys. I felt very disrespected and have for the past two weeks. L**** was in tears yesterday at our meeting because you refused to let her go camping with us. She has been at every meeting and stays the entire time, even making our snacks and making sure that part is taken care of. She feels passed over even though she is there until the last girl leaves.
I don't mean to be callous but the whole reason for our troop is to help grow young women and teach them how to be well rounded adults. By being short with them and sometimes down right mean, all it does is turn them off to the program. I know you have a lot going on at home but please don't take it out on us. I don't want the girls to dread going to their meetings or on our outings.
The two girls I am afraid to lose are the ******* girls. They don't have anything other than this and can be pushed very easily, especially C******. We can work around their financial difficulties, even if we have to roll their start up fees back until January or February. I will be calling ********* and making some type of arrangement.
I apologize if I seem to harsh but there is no other way. Anything I say seems to be too much and is taken as an offense to you. I am not a very confrontational person but when it comes to these girls, someone has to speak for them. Also, I have to speak up for myself, which I rarely do.

I tried not to be disrespectful but I didn't want these girls walked on. I can handle being disrespected but the girls cannot and WILL NOT. She tried calling me like 5 times today, like one message wasn't enough, but I had a lot to do before our trip this weekend. (Go Myrtle Beach!) I also spoke with some of our parents that were involved and they are ticked off. I finally got a chance to call her after I picked up the kids. It was like debating with a wall. She didn't listen to a frigging word I said. If there is a third incident, I am going to ask her to step down. I have already talked to her about this during our J.J. prep. Three strikes, you're out.

OOH, She also had the audacity to accuse me of being mad that I had nothing to do with the camp out. I am not the one with the power trip. Everything that has to do with this troop is for the girls, not me. I let the girls have the power as it should at this level. If she wants total control, move back to Brownies!

Ok, I am done venting. I tell ya, I love to work with these girls, really. They are all wonderful young ladies! Nida actually makes me dread going to meetings sometimes.........

Potty trained in a day!

Yes, I am proud to say it took my Emma one day to potty train herself. Of course she is over 3 years old but guess who didn't have to deal with accidents a gazzilion times. She has tried underwear here and there, just to get the idea. She pooed in them twice before and was totally grossed out by it. Well, after spending Thanksgiving over at a friend's house, that was it for her. There was a little girl there, about her size but in 1st grade and they are very good friends. Emma went in the restroom with her and saw what she was doing. Yesterday, she decided she wanted to wear underwear. She has been in them ever since! She has surprised us by going in, not even asked and using the potty chair. Today she did her poo twice! That was the one thing the just had a hard time with. She even complained her bottom hurt and needed a diaper. With coaxing, she did it once and then the second time on her own!

Emma now has her own room now! Emily decided she wanted back in the FROG but to share with Lizzie. (The FROG is our Finished Room Over Garage. It is like 15x20. HUGE and PINK) After talking extensively with all the kids and Mike about it, we decided to run with it. Now Emma has her own room! It is lavender which totally matches her Dora stuff. I just need to go and buy her curtains! She got the bigger of the two other rooms. One: Michael is a slob and we can keep in in one room Two: She has the bigger closet and dresser for her baby brother or sister's clothes. By the time the baby needs to be moved out of our room, we will be moving either to WA or VA.

Off to make dinner! What a good holiday it has been!

New due date!

I went in to see my OB on Thursday. What an event that was! HA! First off, Mike has special lib, the day off, so he could come to the appointment. I was asking for it just by having him come. He is embarrassing. Entertaining, true, but even more true is he is embarrassing! LOL We were waiting to be seen and the Tyra Banks Show was on. She was giving exMeth heads makeovers. HA! You can just imagine the crap he was saying. It was funny and getting giggles but come on! These women worked hard to get where they are. Then again, why screw with that stuff to begin with?

When we got put in the room, I passed gas. Yup, I farted. It is a fact of a pregnant woman's life. Well, he let it be known what I did. Anyone in the hall could hear him. He threatened to say it out loud in the waiting room. He didn't but man, why torture me? LOL We did get to hear the HB. It was in the 150's. I LOVE my OB. He is a younger man, late 30's which doesn't bother me. He was nice and really wanted to know my well being. You know when they are sincere and faking. The reasoning? He has FOUR sisters. Large family child! I know my son will grow up to be like this man. VERY compassionate.

My due date will be kept with my cycle rather than my ultrasound. My due date is now May 9th rather than May 3rd. I told him it really didn't matter because I am always a week late. Four times now, late by a week. He said that he could induce me at 39 if I would like. I am tickled! Then again, I would like my body to take its time and go on its own. This is my last, no need to rush. I have a feeling that I will go a bit quicker, on my own anyway. We have two BIG camping trips planned two weekends in a row, three weeks before my due date. I won't miss out on them, for my girls' sake. I have 13 girls depending on me. Plus, this will push my body into labor a bit earlier. I am so much more active than I was with any of my others, minus Michael.

I got my hair cut!! It looks AWESOME. After my doctor's appointment, we headed to the mall where one of our friends is the manager of Regis. She has been doing this for way over a decade. She is good! She dyed my hair this past Spring. Well, I told her to cut it all off as long as it didn't make me look fatter than I already am or make it look like I am wearing a wig. (I had it cut short when Michael was a baby and it looked like a wig) She not only cut it awesome, but did it up again like at the Khaki ball. (she did my hair in the previous pic) It looked great when we went out for lunch at the Olive Garden. Very appreciative! It turned into a beautiful day.

I had better get to my laundry. It has been calling me all weekend. At least the kids only have two days of school this week. Thanksgiving is going to be great this year. We are having it at a friends, the one who did my hair, this year. We bring a roasted turkey, ham and real potatoes. They are frying one and making a lot of pies plus some more sides. Then her Michael, my Michael, her daughter and my #2 daughter can have some great fun!! Our dear husbands can have some beer and watch football. Maybe get a little Karaoke in there? ;)

BLAAAAAAHHHH!

DUDE!! I need an escape from the BLAHS!! A nap? OOOooohhh! Sounds delish! Man, I get out of the doldrums and into the blahs. I don't think I can win at all!! I do have a doctor's appointment tomorrow. That should make me a bit more upbeat. Getting to hear the heartbeat is always refreshing. I bet you a hundred bucks Emma asks if it is time for them to take the baby out. LOL Everytime we have gone in there, she asks. She was naughty yesterday. I left her with Daddy during G.S. and she dumped a half empty bottle of Robitussin on my carpet and got into my shaving cream. NOT TO MENTION, some of my bathroom stuff like bug itch spray and any other thing that is under my sink. And he b*tches when she gets into stuff when I am watching her! SUGA' PLEASE!

Well, we have had a small issue come up in G.S. that has totally stumped me and pissed me off. We had a start up fee in the beginning of $20. Council suggests a start up fee of $40 but we had like $700 in the account when we started. Well, that $20 went toward a $24 photo album. DUMB! Why could I have not said anything! A lot of the parents are pissed off that we spent that much on an album and think my co leader is cashing in on our money. I would have to lean that way. I just got pressured into it. "I don't like confrontations!" -Rex, Toy Story

My co leader is insisting on ANOTHER $20 from the parents, saying that I agreed to it in our first newsletter. I THOUGHT it said we MIGHT ask for it. I really don't feel comfortable asking and let the parents in on this one. I think we should pay as we go until we can touch cookie money, around March. There are only a few events and they would end up paying for it anyway. That way, if a girl could not attend an event, she does not have to go. Her argument is that if a girl can't afford it, this helps the girl out. SHE STILL HAS TO PAY THE $20!! Please....either way, the parent is going to pay. This way, they are not obligated to pay if they can't or don't want to attend.

CAN I SAY ITCHY *SS? Yes, I am pregnant but she jumped down my thoat about this issue, on my friggin' birthday! Even if it wasn't my b-day, I had just walked in the door when she called on Thursday and starts in on me. I told her I was against it and she got really itchy *ss with me about it, being a total b*tch about the whole thing. It seems like it is just a control thing. Either way, I am going to do what is best for the girls, even if she can't seem to see past it.

We have another family in our troop that frustrates the crap out of me. They have two girls in our troop, sisters, that have a hard time paying for anything we do. They live on base so there is no expense for any utilities other than cable and phone. They don't have cable anymore and have one cell phone line. Why are they broke all the time? I really don't get it. She has no kids at home. Why not just go work at Target or Walmart for some extra cash? The thing is, I LOVE her girls! They really love Girl Scouts and NEED it. Out of all of our girls, they really could use the program. I don't want to lose them because of some hardship that their parents are obviously going through. I think their mom is angry with our first $20 fee let alone a second! She was really mad about the album that we used because of the price. Especially when you see the size of it! What if we need to get a second? I know the parents will NOT agree to pay for another if it isn't a Walmart special. How do I tell my co leader without totally pissing her off? Either way, it will, no matter how I put it and I cannot ask the parents to pay for it or the girls, AGAIN.

Much better!!

I am feeling much better today! I am a bit tired still but that is from waking at 4 in the morning having to go wee and a growling stomach. I had to go down and eat a jello which really didn't work as well as I thought it would. Then I couldn't fall asleep, woke up to the cat in my face trying to steal my glass of water, and my stomach growling again! Lame!! Anyway, I did get my preggo snoogle pillow in the mail yesterday. IT ROCKS! I am still adjusting to it but it really makes me more comfortable at night. It is SO much easier to fall asleep also. I am really going to enjoy every second of the pregnancy, relish every part of it, MINUS the ill feeling times. I am so glad I don't have to do this again! I will just enjoy my neices and nephews AND grandbabies~~!

Today, I am feeling well enough to go walking. I have felt icky for too long and know that walking will make me feel so much better. It will set everything back in place and give me energy again. At least my depression has faded. THANK GOD! I usually have it for a day or two but this one was a bit longer. I plan on bringing it up at my appointment next Thursday. Mike will get to go to this one which is great. I was just glad that he was able to be there for the ultrasound. I think Emma is the one that got the biggest kick out of that. I hope she can go to my big ultrasound! That one is coming next MONTH! I really hope my little man/woman cooperate and let us know what s/he is!!

TIRED!

I am so tired today. The reason? My lovely husband. See, he likes to stay up a bit later than me, which does not bother me. Well, my son likes to fall asleep with me or just lay with me until Daddy goes to bed, even if it is for five minutes. Mike usually moves him into his own bed when he goes to bed. Last night, he not only didn't move him but he turned the HEAT on. One of our vents lands right one me! (I like having the vent there for the AC) It stays cool upstairs but not cold. He set Emily into cough fits with the heat. She too can't sleep well when it is warm. I moved Michael and tried for hours to try to sleep. Yeah, all I did was fart all night. LOL That is what happens when you stick a jalapeno burger in a pregnant woman!


I am so tired and kinda hurt today. I have a pinched something or other in my back, probably from tossing and turning last night. I am hanging on by a frigging thread!! I am going to force Emma down for a nap with me. If she doesn't nap, I can't nap. What in the hell am I going to do when I get farther along? MAN!! I will have to work in naps for her from now on. NIGHTY NIGHT!

Four BLAH day in a row

I have had the most melancholy this week. I mean it is really bringing me down! I need a nap or something I guess. I will bring it up at my next drs appointment. If it continues, I need to look at the possiblity that my depression is creeping back up on me. I will not allow it to ruin my pregnancy like it did with #2 and 4. I don't know how people can just suffer with it without getting medical help with it. There is this one chic on here that moans and groans about suffering from depression yet doesn't do a damn thing about it. What's worse is I KNOW that her kids are suffering for it. I will not let it catch hold of me. It would not be fair to my family OR to myself. I know if I got my *ss out to the track and walked, I would get better. It just seems like the minute I clean the house, the kids go and trash it. I worked hard on the livingroom yesterday and Emma trashed the place. I found a cool web site with chore charts on it. I am going to work in that after I get this laundry set up. Dude! I hate laundry!!! The kids are totally slacking on their end of that. I had to go dig through their rooms for their clothes. Emily has not cleaned the cat box in almost a week. I am going to start deducting money from her fee if she doesn't do something soon! They are going to have to be grounded until they get what they need DONE! NO going outside until this is fixed.

Anyway, I have to go back to work. I need some coffee...........