Yeah, this one is a doozy. No, it isn't hormones at all this time. It started like two weeks ago. My coleader insisted that I agreed to charge the parents another $20 fee in January which I only agreed to a POSSIBLE fee. I put it to a vote with the parents and it was voted down, paying as we go for trips. She has been a total B*TCH to me since then. I mean the whole enchilada: snipping at me, snide comments on my remarks, you name it. Tuesday was it for me. We were locked out of our building for our Tuesday meeting. The way it works is I go to the new youth center a block away and pick the keys up at 4. Our meeting is at 4:30. The keys have to be back by 8 am the next day. No biggie because I drive the kids to school then and just drop them off on my way home. (Use of the building is free too!) We the dumb *ss that used the keys the day before never brought the keys back! I am the most absentminded person you will ever meet but I make sure that those keys are there by 8 am. Last week the kids didn't even have school yet my butt was in the car driving them up in time.
Anyway, the guy doesn't get them there so I run over to the building to meet the girls there. Well, Nida shows up in one of her huffy moods so I run up and borrow the lady who runs the place's keys. I have to lock, prop the doors and bring them back. On my way back to drop them, I try and tell her I am dropping them off, don't shut the door or they will lock. She flat out ignores me! She then procedes to be a b*tch to the girls. In the end, we had two go home in tears and a mom in tears. The girls because she told them they had to eat soup even though they didn't want it at our camp out which is NOT going to happen. The mom proceded to get mad and fire back at her. The mom that was in tears wanted to go on our camp out but was told no whereas another mom got to.
Later that day, the mom that was going came to pick up some stuff for a badge she was running at camp. She told me she didn't even volonteer and wouldn't have known how to tell Nida no if she couldn't or didn't want to go. She also had noticed how mean Nida was and how her daughter sometimes dreads going to our meetings.
I wrote her this email:
On a personal note:
Is there something going on at home? I know you all went though or are still going through some financial difficulties. The reason I ask is you have been very snippy and mean with myself and the girls. C***** brought it up when she picked the stuff up and wondered what was wrong yesterday at our meeting. You didn't even respond when I let you know that we could not close the doors on my way back with the keys. I felt very disrespected and have for the past two weeks. L**** was in tears yesterday at our meeting because you refused to let her go camping with us. She has been at every meeting and stays the entire time, even making our snacks and making sure that part is taken care of. She feels passed over even though she is there until the last girl leaves.
I don't mean to be callous but the whole reason for our troop is to help grow young women and teach them how to be well rounded adults. By being short with them and sometimes down right mean, all it does is turn them off to the program. I know you have a lot going on at home but please don't take it out on us. I don't want the girls to dread going to their meetings or on our outings.
The two girls I am afraid to lose are the ******* girls. They don't have anything other than this and can be pushed very easily, especially C******. We can work around their financial difficulties, even if we have to roll their start up fees back until January or February. I will be calling ********* and making some type of arrangement.
I apologize if I seem to harsh but there is no other way. Anything I say seems to be too much and is taken as an offense to you. I am not a very confrontational person but when it comes to these girls, someone has to speak for them. Also, I have to speak up for myself, which I rarely do.
I tried not to be disrespectful but I didn't want these girls walked on. I can handle being disrespected but the girls cannot and WILL NOT. She tried calling me like 5 times today, like one message wasn't enough, but I had a lot to do before our trip this weekend. (Go Myrtle Beach!) I also spoke with some of our parents that were involved and they are ticked off. I finally got a chance to call her after I picked up the kids. It was like debating with a wall. She didn't listen to a frigging word I said. If there is a third incident, I am going to ask her to step down. I have already talked to her about this during our J.J. prep. Three strikes, you're out.
OOH, She also had the audacity to accuse me of being mad that I had nothing to do with the camp out. I am not the one with the power trip. Everything that has to do with this troop is for the girls, not me. I let the girls have the power as it should at this level. If she wants total control, move back to Brownies!
Ok, I am done venting. I tell ya, I love to work with these girls, really. They are all wonderful young ladies! Nida actually makes me dread going to meetings sometimes.........
Anyway, the guy doesn't get them there so I run over to the building to meet the girls there. Well, Nida shows up in one of her huffy moods so I run up and borrow the lady who runs the place's keys. I have to lock, prop the doors and bring them back. On my way back to drop them, I try and tell her I am dropping them off, don't shut the door or they will lock. She flat out ignores me! She then procedes to be a b*tch to the girls. In the end, we had two go home in tears and a mom in tears. The girls because she told them they had to eat soup even though they didn't want it at our camp out which is NOT going to happen. The mom proceded to get mad and fire back at her. The mom that was in tears wanted to go on our camp out but was told no whereas another mom got to.
Later that day, the mom that was going came to pick up some stuff for a badge she was running at camp. She told me she didn't even volonteer and wouldn't have known how to tell Nida no if she couldn't or didn't want to go. She also had noticed how mean Nida was and how her daughter sometimes dreads going to our meetings.
I wrote her this email:
On a personal note:
Is there something going on at home? I know you all went though or are still going through some financial difficulties. The reason I ask is you have been very snippy and mean with myself and the girls. C***** brought it up when she picked the stuff up and wondered what was wrong yesterday at our meeting. You didn't even respond when I let you know that we could not close the doors on my way back with the keys. I felt very disrespected and have for the past two weeks. L**** was in tears yesterday at our meeting because you refused to let her go camping with us. She has been at every meeting and stays the entire time, even making our snacks and making sure that part is taken care of. She feels passed over even though she is there until the last girl leaves.
I don't mean to be callous but the whole reason for our troop is to help grow young women and teach them how to be well rounded adults. By being short with them and sometimes down right mean, all it does is turn them off to the program. I know you have a lot going on at home but please don't take it out on us. I don't want the girls to dread going to their meetings or on our outings.
The two girls I am afraid to lose are the ******* girls. They don't have anything other than this and can be pushed very easily, especially C******. We can work around their financial difficulties, even if we have to roll their start up fees back until January or February. I will be calling ********* and making some type of arrangement.
I apologize if I seem to harsh but there is no other way. Anything I say seems to be too much and is taken as an offense to you. I am not a very confrontational person but when it comes to these girls, someone has to speak for them. Also, I have to speak up for myself, which I rarely do.
I tried not to be disrespectful but I didn't want these girls walked on. I can handle being disrespected but the girls cannot and WILL NOT. She tried calling me like 5 times today, like one message wasn't enough, but I had a lot to do before our trip this weekend. (Go Myrtle Beach!) I also spoke with some of our parents that were involved and they are ticked off. I finally got a chance to call her after I picked up the kids. It was like debating with a wall. She didn't listen to a frigging word I said. If there is a third incident, I am going to ask her to step down. I have already talked to her about this during our J.J. prep. Three strikes, you're out.
OOH, She also had the audacity to accuse me of being mad that I had nothing to do with the camp out. I am not the one with the power trip. Everything that has to do with this troop is for the girls, not me. I let the girls have the power as it should at this level. If she wants total control, move back to Brownies!
Ok, I am done venting. I tell ya, I love to work with these girls, really. They are all wonderful young ladies! Nida actually makes me dread going to meetings sometimes.........
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