Lots of stuff has gone down lately. This is an email I posted to some friends explaining the start of it all:
Ok, this starts out back when I was first married and just had Lizzie. We allowed Patty, my sil to live with us and get started down in Orlando. Well, we didn't have a car so we had a married friend go pick her up from the airport. She to this day thinks we tried to set them up. Well, they ended up 'getting together' despite him being married and having a boy a week older than Lizzie. I stopped talking to her and he ends up sending her home to her abusive boyfriend, the reason she was down with us. Oh, and she is 17 at the time. After the fact, we found out she got pregnant with him and had an abortion.
That is the first part. Well, when we moved to VA to his ship from SC after FL, (FL and SC were his schools) he met Matt, Patty's current dh. She came down for the summer while I was pregnant with Emily to try it again, this time with her father. Matt and her became good friends. He loaned us his car which we ended up buying eventually because yet again, we did not have a car. ( we were super poor back then) She went back to MN and her dad moved to FL, where he is originally from. The following summer after this, Mike, my dh and Matt were out for 6 months. Matt ended up being flown home because he got hit by a car overseas. Dang ol' drunken sailors! He got drunk and thought he fell off a wall but his injuries, a fractured pelvis, were conducive with getting hit by a car. She came down and they ended up hooking up and moving in.
Well, they got married, had a boy 7 months younger than Michael and now have a baby girl who is 14 mos old. Well, she has not been happy. She is high maintenance and expects every second of his attention either on her or the kids. He has not been totally wining and dining her lately and she is not happy. Nah, the brand new house, almost brand new Ford Explorer, the jet ski, four wheeler, lap top, bling bling, vacations more than once a year are not wining and dining. ANYWAY>>>>
Come to find out Isaac, the married guy from FL either contacted her or she contacted him. She got a letter from him right before she got married but didn't, or so she says didn't contact him. He divorced then remarried for the same reason, she got knocked up and now has a total of FOUR boys. He is divorced and has the younger 3 boys. We also found out she met him for lunch. She says they didn't do anything but Matt found a pregnancy test in her purse. He got his surgery after Carly was born, the baby. She is going to move in with me, with the kids. She will either commute to Columbia or work something out with her work. I will watch Miss Carly (WOO HOO!) and pick the boys up from school. Matt would get them on the weekends. Well, he is heartbroken, first love, first girlfriend, first you know.... He threatened to take the kids. He threatened to have her committed today I just found out. He wrote out a separation agreement where he gets sole custody and she has to pay like $600 a month. She makes like $2000 a month and her car note is like $600. He forged her name to get it for her in her name as it was.
That was the start. Yesterday, I went up to help try and work something out. It didn't go too well. What happened was Patty stayed the night at the house beacause he cried for her, something like that. Well, they argued in the morning, she claimed she was going to kill herself, after he said he would take the kids. (she didn't mean it literally) She locked herself in the bathroom and he pushed the door in. He filed a report on her that she was going to hit herself and make it look like he did it. She filed one about the door and that she was afraid to go home. Well, his mom and sister came down from VA. I came to help it all go ok and just stay inbetween. I got there, said my hi's and said that I was going to get Patty. I picked her up from McD's and brought her back to get her clothes. She talked to her son and held her baby, got her clothes and agreed to talk with Matt. (well, she watched her boy ride is bike and shoved her baby at me after holding her for a few minutes, telling me she has to get used to not being held by her. Then she gave in and held her fingers as the baby walked around in the garage) He was a stone as well as she and fought back and forth. He wrote up and agreement that she didn't like and he wouldn't budge. We tried working on things but she ended up throwing the papers at him, throwing crap around and taking off outside with her stuff. I followed her but she went in the garage and threw a cd player at Matt. Then she went back in the garage and threw some more stuff around. She wanted to smash in the windshield of his truck but I talked her out of it. Instead, she jumped in it and took off through the front grass. She stopped and flipped out at me, asking what can she do. She grabbed her stuff and took off. Sheriff came and went. She called me told me to F off and goodbye. Then called again to say his truck was at McDonalds. She called my dh, her brother and told him goodbye, she is taking pills and no one can stop her. She also said she was in a hotel then hung up. I hung around for a while while Matt frantically called to see if he could find the hotel she was in. I finally left after talking with Mike and his mom about a hundred times.
I got home around midnight after stopping off at Taco Bell. (I didn't eat in like 12 hours) We watched Dexters Lab and he was eating a huge burrito. Anyway.......Yesterday I was on the phone off and on with Patty and her mom. Patty called me when we were in Target asking if she could still stay at our house. I said yes as long as she didn't bring any drugs in my house or anyone over. She then said,"Oh, so I am a druggie and a Whore now." I pointed out I just wanted it known and said out loud. I really didn't want any of that crap around my kids AT ALL. She called while we were out to eat as well. (celebrating the first day of school!) Later that evening their mom called and told me that Patty told her that she was on the side of the road in GA, taking her pills and video taping herself before she died. Then the next conversation was she was getting tired and swerving on the road and was going to stop at a hotel. She told her mom in one of the conversations that I told her she was a chicken sh*t and should just take the pills. I swear I NEVER said that. I left a nasty message to the tune of, "I never said that, I am mad at you, don't call until you have cooled down." Of course there was nasty language inbetween all of that. I was pissed! Today she left a message while I was painting (WOO HOO! My room is finally done and YELLOW!) and said a lot of nasty crap like,"Oh you are mother of the year and how it is documented in VA that I would rather sleep than drive my kid to kinder." I was up at 5:30 AM every morning driving my dh to work, FORTY FIVE MINUTES AWAY and then driving the kids to school. Then she blabbed about I told Matt about her interactions with them the I wrote above in this post. I HAVE NOT TALKED TO MATT SINCE YESTERDAY! I told him yesterday that I was butting out and letting them deal with it. I told him that I would not lie about anything asked. I am done with her until she finds some help. I cannot have her around my kids and I think she shouldn't be around her own until she figures out what is up with herself.
Enough venting about that...MY KIDS START SCHOOL TOMORROW! I am so excited! Lizzie got new shoes today and Michael got a fresh haircut yesterday. Lizzie has a nervous stomach and Emily is just plain nervous. It will be just Emma and myself at home! Our plan is to walk every morning we can. On rainy days, we can go up to the rec center and use the track. I am charging my Ipod as we speak! Everything will even itself out back into place once we all get on a good schedule.
For now, we have to pray that Patty finds her way.......
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